This is the fourth in a series of articles on total life improvement. How many articles will there be in the series? Only the Wizard knows…
Article 1: The Only Self-Help Book You’ll Ever Need (And You’ve Never Heard of It)
Article 2: Virtue 1 – Clarity of Mind
Article 3: A Week of Meditation
So…this is a delicate topic, but we’re all adults here, right?
Right?
I’m trying to figure out how to talk about this in a way that makes the best sense. The issue is that we are expending our essential energy unnecessarily. Most articles you’ll read on this are about the need to workout, to eat better, to do some breathing exercises…all to increase our energy levels. But few talk about how too many of us are unnecessarily expending precious Chi due to our preoccupation with sex and masturbation. The latter is most insidious.
I’m not trying to sound like the ultimate killjoy, even though I know that’s how I’m coming across, but our preoccupation with sex is robbing us of the energy we could be using for doing our best work.
This is more of a problem for men, than most women, as men lose important minerals and fluids as a result of sex and masturbation. Then there’s the emotional guilt that can occur after promiscuous sex or masturbation.
And it’s more pernicious for younger men. At the time when you are at your most powerful and have the highest hormone levels, this is when you need to learn to transmute sexual energy to Chi. Older men, we have to learn how to preserve our Chi as it doesn’t get created as abundantly. In other words, the longer you’ve been in a pattern of indiscriminately dispersing your sexual energy, the more important it is to stop now.
And I suspect this is not a new problem. Benjamin Franklin included this Virtue in his original 13 Virtues to follow…but now that pornography is free and widely distributed on the internet, it probably is worse than ever.
We want to deny this. We want to say that sex is fun, and it releases endorphins, so how can it be bad?
It’s worth a try at this. One, completely abolish masturbation from your life. Two, add some Qigong or Taiji to your practice, which is Virtue 3. Three, yes it’s perfectly good to have sex with your partner, but the men would do best to learn how to…prevent the big moment from occurring. I highly suggest checking out some Tantric (or Taoist) sex practices. There are several other people who write about this on the internet with a lot more expertise than I can provide. Sex can actually be more enjoyable by employing some of these principles.
So, as you may have guessed, the focus of this week is Chastity. That means preserving my energy by not indiscriminately releasing it. This is another principle from the book, White Fat Cow, by Bill Bodri, that has completely changed my paradigm around personal development.
As for my meditation practices from week one? I’m still continuing them. I’m hoping by the end of Week 2, I will have a tremendous amount of energy again.
